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2012-01-24T06:24:00.001-08:00

Good by to Playgroups for now...

2011-01-18T12:58:00.000-08:00

Hello everyone

Lots of changes have been happening, and though I didn't think this would ever happen while my children are young it has. For the time being, I won't be participating, let alone running playgroups.

My middle child has been diagnosed with Autism. It's been a fight getting this recognized, but now that we are here we are working to help her with as much resources as possible. The fight is not easy. Now I'm running around with a kindergartener and a specail needs preschooler who have oposite school schedules and two different locations. We have therapy sessions, and doctor's appointments, yada yada yada. It's really left me barely any other time for play.

On top of that, my husband is retiring from twenty years of service in the Air Force. This summer we'll be facing a lifestyle change and perhaps a cross country move. It's daunting.

Either way, I hope to return to playgroups one day. Until then, enjoy what is here, and feel free to ask me for my thoughts or advice on certain issues. I'd be glad to give you help in anyway.

Christmas Light Hunt!

2010-12-07T06:57:00.000-08:00

This is really something you should plan far in advance, but hey! It's an idea to dream about for next year. Last week at MOPS we talked about finding good nieghborhoods of Christmas Displays. I wish I had brought my notebook and pen, because I would have written down every street mentioned that day!

Thankfully, my local newspaper gathers information and pictures for me, but for you guys; looks like you're on your own. However, if you are looking for a fun family event to do with your group consider doing a Christmas Light Hunt.

I'm planning to do this next year, so of course; my idea might need fine tuning. ;0)

1. Map out places you know will be good, and determine a place for the families to meet up. A good idea might be Mc Donalds with a playplace that way the families can have dinner together first. This is something you might want to start doing now; write down displays you see this year for next year's tour.

2. Be sure to pack walkie talkies. This way each family can stay in their own van (car, SUV, whatever) and head home when the time is right for them.. But everyone is still conversing with each others over the 'magic'.

3. Take a tour. Choose someone to be the 'leader' and follow the map.

Can you imagine, not having to 'unload and reload' your children for this event? hehehe~ if you happen to have that magical Dvd player too, you can watch christmas movies inbetween the "oooos' and "awwws"....

Olive branches do not grow on trees.

2010-12-06T01:30:00.000-08:00

Here's a shocker. I have experienced several episodes of drama. *gasp* I've extended olive branches to particular cases, and there is often times I wish I could have the oppertunity to extend it to more people I've butted heads with. So, I am going to tell you about the skill and knowledge I know about growing olive branches and extending them to those who (let's face it) you'd probably rather not.

The biggest thing I've found that allows an olive branch to grow is understanding. I have a few organizers that I've had problems with. I feel that for the most part, they have made an unfair judgement about me and never really gave me a chance. BUT I also sympathize for them. I realize it takes two to tango and there are things I could have done differently.

One boy in high school (who has probably forgotten all about me by now!) left me with a quote once that I've never forgotten. I told him that I was angry at someone and he struck back saying: "For being human?" He said it as a joke, but I took it seriously ever since. Everybody is human, and we all make mistakes. We are suppose to. Knowing this it makes it easier to forgive.

The last thing I'm going to leave you with is a lesson I've heard about since I was a small child, but I really didn't understand it until I was older. One of my favorite stories growing up was Anne of Green Gables series. In the book (movie as well), Anne who has a stubborn side to her refuses to make an apology to the town gossip, nosey nancy : Rachel Lynd.

As a result Marilla, the adoptive parent of Anne, threatens to take Anne back to the orphanage if she would not apologize to her. But Matthew (marilla's brother and Anne's other adoptive parent) consoles her and manages to persaude her to apologize. "You don't have to be really sorry, just sorta sorry."

OK. I know it's a better vertue to be geniuine in your apology but there are plenty of times I had to make apologies for things that are not even in my control. Usually I emphasize "I'm sorry I made you feel that way" because no matter what I did, I can garentee there is not a bone in me that would ever want someone to experience a unintended negative feeling; even my worst enemy.

The positive thing that I can tell you is that if you are able to exchange olive branches, do not cast the olive branch out once your nieghbor leaves. Plant it back in your heart and continue to nuture it so it can grow. I have one person who has reentered in my life that I thought would never be good friends with me. Surprisingly, life has changed and I find myself needing her more than ever. She may not be my best friend but I think we were meant to find each other. What a tradgey it would have been had we not allowed our olive branches grow into a tree of frienship.

Happy Wenesday!

2010-12-01T08:14:00.000-08:00

Hello friends!

For the past days I've been enjoying my holiday time with family and I'm not planning to return to blogging for a while. Without going into details I have some things going on that are distracting me, and I just can't get the motivation to write. I'll be back, but not sure when.

Crystal

Wordless Wenesday; Cookie Turkeys!

2010-11-24T12:37:00.000-08:00

Haven't Forgot!

2010-11-23T19:38:00.001-08:00

Hey all......

You have not been forgotten. My family had an episode of the sickies and many things have been going on. This weekend I will be reloading with new blog posts so just stay tuned!

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Craft Idea Cooki turkeys!

2010-11-22T05:33:00.000-08:00

So this one is pretty easy! We used frosting to hold it all together.

2 fudge stripes cookies
1 cordial cherry chocolates
1 candy corn

Kids can easily put them together and since it's all food, even little ones can attempt to create turkeys! Pictures coming later on today!

Wordless Wenesday!

2010-11-17T12:36:00.000-08:00

From our Pottery Handprint event!

Can't Leave Home? Time for a confrence!

2010-11-15T07:07:00.000-08:00

So I've found that sometimes our leader meetings just don't work. Face to face meetings are always the best, but when push comes to shove-- sick kids, vacations, etc. Phone conferences are the way to go!

If you have long distance, you can create a free confrence call through many websites (Check out Rondee.com ) . Most of them you have to register, then you can set up a phone call day and time, and invite your participants.

I had to do this very thing sometimes.

Happy Organizing!

Message Board Games

2010-11-10T05:18:00.000-08:00

One of the things that's great about an online community that meets offline. We have the advantage of the calendar, photos, and message boards. The message board is a great way to break the ice, get to know members, and have a lot of fun!

Here are some games to help get your message board going!

Shag or Die
Pick a man, if you were faced with the choice of either 'shagging or dying' which would you do? The fun part is trying to find those "iffy" guys.

player 1: Chevy Chase?

player 2: Shag...i guess if I want to live........Brad Pitt?

The person under me

Player one: "The person under me needs to do the dishes"

Player two: "That's me, they'll probably be done tomorrow......the person under me loves the smell of vanilla"

Player three: "ME!! Vanilla and Almonds!.......the person under me plays the guitar."

Three things about me

This game you list three things about yourself and the next person responds has to pick something they have in common with them.

Player 1;
Three things about me:
1. I don't smoke

2. I love music

3. I have three siblings.

Player 2:
1. I love music

2. I have one daughter.

3. My bathroom theme is rubber ducks.

Player 3:
1. I have one Daughter

2. I don't pay the babysitter (The Tv)

3. I love pastries....

One Letter Game

*you need one four letter word. The nest poster takes that word and changes one letter to make it a different word.

Player one:

Take

Player two:

Make

Player three:

Mane

Player four:

Cane

Association Game
*you give one word, the next poster says the first thing they can think of.

Example:

player one:
Cat

Player two:
Dog

Player three:
Bark

from Kara, of military Mammaz in Tucson, Az

One of our most participated was the Alphabet game. You pick a topic and the group has to go A-Z on that topic.

We used ice cream flavors for our first go around because so many of our moms had talked about having a sweet tooth.

Player 1: Almond

Player 2: Buttered Pecan

We had a bunch of people goggling for the hard to find letters like Q. Several name brands have "old flavor" lists where we got a lot of our answers.

Anybody have games they'd like to share?

Wordless Wenesday: Play at the Mall!

2010-11-10T00:06:00.000-08:00

Be sure to submit a series of photos from one of your recent playgroups to be featured on Wordless Wenesday!

Painting the Town Playgroup Style!

2010-11-09T05:16:00.000-08:00

Do you remember the excitement of riding in the car on the way to zoo when you were a child? Was there a special place that your parent's or your school would make a trip to? There are alot of local attractions just waiting to be visited! Your playgroups do not have to be limited to your home! Check your phone book under the categories Attractions, or Children's or Entertainment , and you may stumble on local resources you didn't know about. Ask around from your members about fun places they go. Then call and ask the facility about having an event there! Things you'll need to know:

◦The capacity of the space if you will be secluded to one room
◦The price of admission, parking, etc.
◦Discounts if they are available
◦Operation days and hours
◦Ask about having a private play date at the facility
◦If food is allowed
◦What you are required/ or suggested to bring
Once you have a good idea about the venue, plan your event. You may want to coordinate it with the facility. By doing so, you can avoid a lot of potential problems. Some of the most common problems are

◦members getting lost or not finding the group
◦the staff of the facility being unprepared for the extra boost in attendance that day
◦The facility being closed due to operation changes, weather, or high attendance (facility gets filled)

With just a little bit of organization and a lot of researching (especially if you live in a small town), you'll find places to go without long travel. We'd love to hear about the places you've discovered (pictures too!) Send them in!

No Playgroup Junkies Allowed

2010-11-07T00:14:00.000-07:00

Once again, time to get opinionated. My never ending search for anything related to playgroups has found me deep in thought. I came across a group who has an awesome info page. The page clearly stated what a membership and who should be a member.

No playgroup junkies....it reads.........wait a minute.........did I read that right?! Apparently they believe that playgroup junkies are not the proper 'material' for their group. Now I understand the theory in this.....If you are a playgroup junkie (which means you belong to several groups in the area) you are less likely to have time to commit to another group..but you know how I like to play devil's advocate.

I've been a huge supporter of the idea that there are never enough playgroups, and there is no such thing as a perfect playgroup for everyone. This group's purpose is to create a tight knit group of like minded families. They don't want a member coming to say...one playgroup a month and never making a deeper connection with the other members. It's HARD to make a connection with someone you only see a few hours out of the month!

So, no playgroup junkies allowed.

But here's where I play devil's advocate. Maybe this person is a playgroup junkie because they haven't found the group that fits them yet; could the perfect playgroup be yours? Well, I guess you wouldn't know if you don't allow playgroup junkies. What are they suppose to do: leave the groups they already are finding a place in, just because you want full committment from them? Do you realize what a turn off that is?

Let's not forget that playgroup junkies also are PROVEN to love playgroups. Why else would be members of so many groups? What kind of potential does that kind of love have? An active member. A resource of ideas. A volunteer..a leader.

All I'm trying to say if you are going to limit your membership (which you should!) make sure you explore all the possibilities of who that excluded someone could be when they do join. Granted that mom who joined last month whom I had a no so great feeling about has yet to be active. But whos knows...even though my first impressions was spot on, that doesn't mean she couldn't have been my next best friend. She still can be.

I just found that this requirement (IMO) contradicted the very thing they were asking for. Maybe they should have put : WANTED: Playgroup Junkie Wannabes. Perhaps that would have been more clear.

Do you allow playgroup junkies in your group? What do you want from your members?

Playgroup Leader Etiquette

2010-11-05T03:42:00.000-07:00

Emily Post would not be proud. My playgroup Etiquette did not come from her book.... I learned it the hard way, and still continue to learn. In fact, I find Emily's books extremely boring, no matter how important I feel the information is inside.

For sake of being Etiquette incorrect on my opinions, I have found the most organizers do not feel comfortable with other playgroup organizers in their own group; especially if they are operated on the same website.

You could ask why; but to me it's obvious; fear of competition. Is she joining to steal my members? Advertise her group? Steal my ideas?

Well, I'm not going to get into why I think this 'fear' is ridiculous (I'll cover that later), but here is etiquette for those of you who may not have realized that yes, Houston, there is etiquette for us organizers.

1. Never Copy ANY content verbatim. In fact, avoid copying as much as possible. If you have to copy, ask first. Which leads me to number two:

2. Don't be possessive. Guess what? Great minds think alike. No you were not the 'first' one to think of doing a playgroup at the fire station, or signing your group up for a kindermusik class. That boudoir Mom's Night Out idea you had? Been there, done that. Get over it. If they really did 'steal' it from you; your group members will know it. You have nothing to worry about.

3. Do not join for sole purpose of promoting yours. It's just not cool.

4. Respect the organizers. Not everyone will organize in the same way and you will not be happy with some of the choices they make. That doesn't mean that they are wrong. I cannot stress how disrespectful it is to criticize some one's else group when you run one yourself; would you want them criticizing yours?

5. If you are going to share events, make sure you are really sharing. Even if it is a 'public event' like a stroller walk, it does not mean you should meet up at the same day and time without letting the other organizer know. There is too many bad outcomes that can come from this (and that is a completely different subject!). Keep up with communication with that organizer. Be in communication.

So that's it! Be thoughtful of other organizers and you'll have some strong allies by your side when the going gets tough.

I am a VECDCS

2010-11-04T00:29:00.000-07:00

Yesterday, I got to hang out one of our local TV new stations. I got to see the control room, the studio, I even accidentally (yes it was an accident) got of TV! I met the producers, the director, the camera guys, the graphics guy and the reporters too! Of course, you know me: the entire time I was there I was hoping there is would a clear cut opportunity to get them to do a story on the group.

But since I like to be etiquettly correct; I didn't breathe a word of it. However, I was hoping it would come up. I even had a plan.

I figured that somebody at the station would have asked me what I did for a living. I refused to tell them that I am a stay at home mom: Despite how much I value being one, I also understand how undervalued my status is at this day and age is from certain perspectives. So instead, I've chosen a title for myself.

I am a

Volunteer : What I do with my time is volunteer. I schedule events, I meet people, I direct people, but all this is volunteering.

Early Childhood Development: Duh. What part of my day doesn't involve early childhood development?

Community Specialist: I specialize in creating a community of moms in our area. I mean that is what a playgroup is, right?!

I wanted to give it a special name because I know it will attract interest. There was only one problem with my plan; no one asked me what I did for a living. My group never came up and most of the time I spent sitting in a chair silently, while everyone went busily about their day. But it's OK. I know I'll get another chance. The volunteer Early Childhood Development Community Specialist in me knows it.

What do you do for a living?

Wordless Wenesday: Halloween Photos

2010-11-03T04:06:00.000-07:00

So I'm stealing an idea; I saw it on a photographer's website and had to take it! You know a picture says a thousand words, so here are our pictures from some of the halloween events this past October!

Do you have pictures of your group you would like to share? Send them to meetupdiva@gmail.com

Operation Christmas Child

2010-11-02T03:08:00.000-07:00

So last week I introduced the adopt a family program; a program that will allow your group to 'adopt' a family. It's a close personal act of charity because you can see who it effects. Personally it's charities like these that keep me going because I can see the appreciation; something I know as a mother I sometimes lack in my own household.

A few days ago, Stacie at The Amazing Mess wrote about a charity call Operation Christmas Child.

This is not the first time I've heard of the charity; however, this was the first time I really found out what it was.

This charity works better for my group because it makes it very accessible. Simply set up a play date to do the 'shoebox'. Stacie took it one step further. She included her address. The recipient actually responded! My guess is most would. Those who take the time to appreciate the small things usually don't have much; and that is who you are reaching here.

So I'm taking on this charity instead this year. Play date at my house; everybody bring a shoebox items to fill it and their $7 (or more donation) to the charity (covers shipping), and I'll buy other items (extra envelopes, stamps, paper). Or people can go in on a shoe box together as well.

I'll give you updates on this project if I can! Tell me about your charities, I would love to feature them as well!

Discriminating? Or Exclusive?

2010-11-01T02:35:00.000-07:00

An organizer made a mistake. A big mistake. "We're sorry to discriminate, but...." read the introduction prargraph of an online article about a group denying a stay at home dad membership to their playgroup. Whether or not that is what the infamous email read, it was the wrong way to put it.

Let me become Mr. Webster for a second.

Discriminate : a difference in treatment or favor on a basis other than individual merit

OK. Pperhaps they were discriminating. But isn't discrimination wrong? hmmm......

Let's say I'm going to a movie. I wanna invite someone. I choose a friend. Wait! did I just Discriminate? Maybe a neighbor I haven't met yet would like to go to a movie with me. OH darn...I just did it again. I forgot to ask my sister; who lives in Canada; so I'd have to wait until she could afford to visit me. Now I'm discriminating because of distance. Or is that because of income?

Back to being Mr. Webster.

Exclusive: excluding or having power to exclude

Yeesh....actually, I like the word discriminate better when it's put like that.

So, yes, I discriminate Dads from my playgroup. I am not ashamed. But I never use that particular word. I hope by putting this thought out there it will encourage other leaders to make discriminating choices. Why? Because when you do, you are filling a niche. Perhaps a mom is looking for moms with babies the same age as hers. Maybe you want to connect with Latin mothers.

Only child...
girls/boys only..
adopted children...
premature babies...
first time parents...
single parents....
young/older parents..
working moms...
at home dads...
homeschooling...
ethnic...
religious..
special needs....

The list doesn't end. The point is, by separating yourself in a niche you are free to express yourself on those issues which you might otherwise be uncomfortable expressing to others about..

So, discriminate away my friends.

How long does it take to get a group going?

2010-10-28T02:46:00.000-07:00

I'm not gonna sugar coat it for ya. Getting a group going can be really tough.....or it can be really easy. Sometimes there are things out of your control fixing it to be easy or hard.

Location: You'll have better chance if your community has a large amount of stay at home moms. This could be effected by many other things, but you can always research the area, and see what statistics there are.

How you advertise: If you know me, I would say word of mouth is your best method. Carren Joye's Book, A Stay At Home Mom's Complete Guide To Playgroups, explains that the Internet will not get you many playgroup members. That may have been true when the book was first published (over ten years ago), but with places like meetup.com, or cafemom, I've had the most luck with them. My second source is Craigslist. So there you go. Majority of my members (90 or so) have come from the Internet.

Time of year: Meetup.com's CEO Scott Hieferman once wrote that people flock to social groups the most often after labor day. This is true. In my opinion the best time to start a playgroup is in the Fall, or Spring. Summer is taken away with vacations, and outdoor activities and school ages being home. Winter is overtaken by the holidays.

In my personal experience, it takes about two- three months to be satisfied with how successful your playgroup is going. The routine of getting out the house has to become routine. Once it does, it will feel successful.

How long did it take before you felt your group was "going"?

Should Snacks be allowed at playgroups?

2010-10-28T02:29:00.000-07:00

Nothing brings together groups of people like food. It's something we all need, want, and can enjoy it too!!! Does that mean we should include a snack in a playgroup?

It can depend on several things:

Time: Is it a natural part of the day where snack would be offered? It's recommended that children about 1 yr have two snacks a day; one in the morning and one in the afternoon. But if it is too close to lunch time, you may want to consider offering lunch instead.

Place: Is the place you are visiting snack friendly? Parks are snack friendly, but you may not be allowed to bring snacks into the zoo.

Cost: Snacks don't have to be costly. One mom can supply crackers and juice, or muffins and milk, etc. Sometimes hosts will serve a more elaborate spread, but it doesn't have to be the case.

Snacks are perfect when you are trying to gather everyone up to end a playdate, or transition to a table activity; or just refill the children with some energy. When have you had snacks at a playgroup? How has it gone over? Anything you would do differently?

Introducing Your Leadership Team

2010-10-27T06:22:00.000-07:00

The start of MOPs have come and gone for this year, and unfortunetly I missed our first formal event because my daughter decided to test my motherhood by getting the flu. I was really dissappoint to miss it, but as any mother would, I do what is needed of me.

This past event we introduced the Sterring Team. When we first talked about this, my coordinator asked for ideas on how to do this. We had several suggestions, and because I didn't attend the actual event I can't tell you which one the team choose, or how it went. But here is what we considered:

1. Match Baby Photos game
2. Unusual Fact Match
3. Featured sterring team member of the month

My suggestion was we play blindfolded musical chairs and every time someone is out they introduce themselves.

I wouldn't say it was well received, but I thought I would pass the idea along. Like I always say every group is different: What doesn't work for one may work well for another!

Team Building

2010-10-26T02:48:00.000-07:00

My favorite animated movie of all time released for the first time on DVD this month: Beauty and the Beast. My husband knows how much I relish in watching behind the scenes clips, and seeing extras you don't see at the cinemas. For me they are more entertaining than the actual movie; provided I like the movie.

In one the clips, the team talks about the difficulty script writers and the animation supervisor continue to but heads at meetings. It led their supervisor to make one crucial decision; put them both in the same room, everyday.

It worked. They might have not been the best of friends, but they became in tune with working together to achieve their goal; creating a great movie.

Everyone knows, that in order to accomplish more you need a good team. Next month, my team will meeting for the fourth official meeting; which is kind of sad for a group that has been around for three years. But I've been inspired! I want a Disney team. I want to produce an award winning animated film........*heh*......I mean, mom's group.

Making a team is hard, but coming up with team builders is easier than I once thought. All you have to do is come up with a short activity that will make everyone work together to achieve a goal. Not only does it build a team, but it's motivating.

So here I am. I'm treading new territory and don't know where to start......anyone know how to build a good team?

WOM: take two

2010-10-25T02:00:00.000-07:00

So I made a promise that I would cover word of mouth how to, and here it is!

Basically word of mouth is a game of telephone, mixed with a drama mama gossip queen, but hopefully word of mouth will be a positive thing for your group.

Be Passionate: First thing to do is to get it started yourself. But you have to make sure you are passionate about it. Make sure what you are talking about means something; to you, and to your member.

Make it Personal: When talking about word of mouth for playgroups I focus on promoting group events. Events are your life source; they are like your company's product, or money line. If your members like your events, they will eventually talk about them to people outside of the group; leading new members to you! When I look at starting a new event I focus finding one or two members interested enough to commit to attending an event before it's scheduled. I schedule it around their schedule, and voila! Two members are already coming. They are personally invested in their event; it's theirs!

Give out Invites: I cannot stress this enough; sending an email or e-vite is not enough; why? Because your members know it was not 'for them'. The best attended events that I have had was when I verbally invited members to the event; Our RSVPs double. Not Kidding.

It's not About YOU: Make sure that it's not just your group, or your events that you are promoting. You have to invest your time and energy in finding other gems of information to recommend around the area too. If you do not, your members will get this turned off attitude to your promotions and it will make you seem as though you think it's all about you. I even make it a habit to recommend other mom's groups to new members if I think a different one will suit them better. You know what they usually tell me? They are still interested in joining mine? (Hehehe, I'm an evil reverse physcologist aren't I?)

Handprint Plates

2010-10-22T04:00:00.000-07:00

I have to just give praise to something I stumbled upon. I am currently researching local pottery studios in my area for prices on platters, and possibly mobile paint visits. I hope that we will be doing handprint turkeys on plates--perfect for Thanksgiving turkey to be served on.

So today I did a search for examples for the group to see what I am talking about. I stumbled upon a descent example and when I clicked on the link I found it is a paint yourself pottery shop called All Fired Up in New Jersey.

The artists here are incredible turning handprints into works of art. I know this is not a 'new' idea, but I thought it was really cute.

I am inspired to run down to my local pottery paint shop and go crazy....hmm....maybe I could get a sponsor for this?

Where to find other Playgroup Leaders

2010-10-21T03:27:00.000-07:00

Many playgroup leaders come from national organizations like MOMS, MOPS, or Moms of Multiples. In this case, we have resources around us to find those who go through the same thing.

One day I hope this blog will become an outstanding resource for Mom's group organizers, but for now, I'm just as content writing out to a void about my passion.

Nevertheless, incase someone is reading this post, and finds themselves needing other support, here is how to find it.

Cafemom- cafemom has a group of organizers that participates regularly on a message board. They offer tips, share resources and exchange ideas. The only downfall is, if you don't organize a group on cafemom some of the lingo they speak and website issues they talk about might be confusing.

Not Just Moms- Another message board, but this one is on meetup.com. It's open to playgroup organizers outside of NJM, but again, some lingo applies to meetup.com groups only.

Big Tent- I haven't actually seen an actual group for organizers, but there is plenty of support if you organizer on Big Tent. There are many playgroups on Big Tent, so maybe there is. I'll let you know if I ever hear of one!

Where else do you find support?

Nothing to do? Try GoCityKids!

2010-10-20T03:13:00.000-07:00

I come from a small town. I know what it is like to have 'nothing going on'. When I married my husband we lived in a metroarea, and it is extremely frustrating to me to hear these city folk complain that there is never anything to do.....

Alright, I've been living in metro areas for almost seven years now, and yes, sometimes it is difficult. If you look though, you'll find something. Whether you want to do the searching or not, is up to you.

If you are lucky enough to live in a metro area there should be plenty of sources online to find activites. One of these is http://www.gocitykids.com/ I'm very jealous that my current city is not listed here, but it does cover larger cities, so if you are lucky enough to live in one of these cities, you'll find plenty of stuff to do!

What is your favorite site for finding local events?

The Playgroup Handbook

2010-10-19T02:46:00.000-07:00

One of the books I purchased when I first started running playgroups is The Playgroup Handbook by Laura Peabody Broad, and Nancy Towner Butterworth. My first impression of this book was very unsatisfied. The book focused mainly on activities for the children between the ages of 2-6. I suppose had I looked at the cover I would have relized this, but because this book is not usually in surplus in book stores, I purchased it online. I suppose I was just lazy cuase I didn't notice.

When I firt bought the book, I had one child; still crawling. The activites did not suit her at all. So this book got lost in the sea of books I own.

But I gave it a second chance, and I'm glad I did. I have recieved plenty of advice for activities from this book. It is formatted for seasons, so it's handy when you are coming up with new activites that need to be weather-friendly.

My favorite is still Carren's Book. I have used this book more now my children are older. Trust me, as the old saying goes; Children grow up fast. You'll want this book in now time.

WOM: your best friend

2010-10-18T02:51:00.000-07:00

So organizers are always questioning how to get good active members in their group. I have tried every which way; walking in parades, holding a booth, passing out business cards, advertising online; etc. I cannot tell you how much money I have wasted on advertising.

The best way is word of mouth. More on this later this month.

For now let me tell you what has not worked.

community events- we did a face painting booth this past month and have yet to receive a request to join. Turn over for about $100. zero. zip. nada. granted they could still join, but I was hoping for a more immediate reaction.
business cards, fliers- Out of the past three years...I got one member from this. I have come to find now, however, that is it the way I present them.
professional ads- I bought an ad in our local directory- it cost me $230. Four months of the ad being displayed got me one member who joined and never responded to my emails.
direct mail- it didn't work. plain and simple.

It is safe to say, that since I like to keep my posts short and sweet, that I am withholding information that could make or break this type of promoting your group, like how many fliers I posted and where, how many business cards I passed out, to who and where, etc. But what I can say is for me, the investment was not worth it.

Word of Mouth (WOM) has been the most powerful. I am not just talking about for new members, but also for finding resources, and getting members more active. If I publicize an event by inviting members verbally, I get more attendees. It seems to get them excited! I think being that my group is online we seem to have a false security of connection that we forget we need to connect face to face too!!!!!

Either way, look it up. Check out some books from your local library on word of mouth, and do a search for word of mouth strategies. Soon enough your playgroup will explode into an active and growing group!

Project Outreach

2010-10-15T06:20:00.000-07:00

Here is a basic run down of outreach programs you can implement into your group:

Birthday: Celebrating members birthdays is a small way to show you care. Collect this information when they register and you can choose to include them in a newsletter; send out birthday cards, or hold a monthly birthday party (we do this for the kids), small gifts, etc.

Dinner Fairy: The basic idea is to help out families in need; perhaps they just had a baby, or family member in the hospital, etc. Members sign up to take a meal to the family; so at least they don't have to worry about dinner. Check out take them a meal website for help and ideas.

Mentor Moms: This is something my MOPS group does; Mentor moms are moms who have graduated from 'preschool mothering' and can offer help and advice to current members. They might do outreach calls to moms who have a check-in or gather local resources, etc.

Congsinment and sales: Grouping together to mutually benefit financaily is a common idea. Hosting a multi-family yard sales or consigning to share a booth for those crafty mamas who sell bows, and sew nursing covers, etc.

Mom's Day Off: Gathering volunteers to watch the children while mom has a few hours to herself! Oh glorisous day! A word of caution: If you find yourself tempted to do this it is a daunting task. I would suggest you contact a lawyer to give to legal advice on the service, background check the child care providers and have all emergency contact information for all the children available! Safety is numer one in terms of our children!

The basic idea of outreach is to coordinate programs that make the members feel like they are one of the family. My goals for having a group is just that; I'm looking for family I can count on. Being a military wife away from family, my playgroup is my family. I want them to feel that way too.

Charity: Adopt a family

2010-10-14T00:13:00.000-07:00

One things that I love to see is how a group of people's lives. You can see it all the time: extreme home makeover (T.V.) , newcasts, habitat for humanity, salvation army, etc. What touches me the most is seeing the individuals gratefulness.

Adopting a family may not be the way to 'spread the love' as widely as possible. But I believe it is the most uplifting, and inspirational. This year I hope to adopt family for Christmas. Next I hope to adopt a family for Thanksgiving, and Easter as well.

Each member in your group can donate a small item or group together to buy larger items. I know one playgroup that donated a Christmas feast, two gifts for each child, a 'mom's care basket' (spa items), and a dad's vacation (recreational items for fishing). They also donated some basic supplies, like toilet paper, baby wipes, diapers, and and Albertson's gift card.

I can't imagine what a wonderful Christmas this must have been for this family. I can guarantee you one thing; they will never forget that playgroup.

So the question remains how to find a suitable family to adopt. Start with your church's officiant. Many of them are already hearing the cries for help as people seek out help from God. If you can't find one from there, you can contact the salvation army, or other safe harbor shelters for a referral. I make it a point not to pick moms from within the group simply for the fact that I continue to think of this project as a community outreach program.

I would be extremely happy if this year we could provide a simple gift for our family; anything else would just be a plus. I can't wait to see the looks on their faces!

Big vrs. Small

2010-10-13T03:34:00.000-07:00

My first groups grew like a wildfire on a dry day. Soon our home playdates started attracting 12-14 moms (which is 18-28 kids as well!). Needless to say, some members of the group felt that we should limit the number of members we carry.

The current group I run has a open-door policy, but we do not host many in home playdates. When we do, there is only about 6-8 moms that attend (it yields about 10-19 children). Come this Fall, I expect more enrollment, and we may limit attentdees.

There are several advantages and disadvantages for different sized groups. There are so many infact, it's hard to really explain it in one shot. So instead I've made a chart!

Granting Playgroup Leaders Membership?

2010-10-12T06:20:00.000-07:00

I belong to three (Techinically five, but who's counting) mommy groups. Two out of the three I help organize. One I am just a member and plan to keep it that way. I enjoy coming to a group where I didn't plan, don't have responsibilities, and can just.....ahhhhhhhh........

I'm lucky to have a group without responsibilities of organizing. For some organizers, having other organizers; even assistants; feels intrusive. I have found that it usually happens when you have clusters of playgroups on the same website. It can happen in other ways, but for some reason the 'nieghborhood rivals' flare up for reasons of jealously, competition, and who knows what.

It's valid. Sometimes leaders join for malicious reasons. But sometimes they join for reasons like mine. A break from being the organizer!

Whether you decide to include other playgroup leaders from nearby groups; it is your decision. What you have to decide is what is in danger by them joining in on your group? Taking your event ideas? Taking your members? Dragging down your momentum?

What you really should ask yourself is how can I benefit from this? Connecting with local organizers allows you bond with someone similular to your position. Expand your resources, your ideas, your enthusaims, and strategies.

Or you might just wind up in a tornado of mama drama. So, without judgement, I will ask you this: Are you willing to stay home when the weather man says the hurricane is coming? Or are you running for the hills? Do you allow organizers in your group? (OK, maybe that was three questions).

Registering Members

2010-10-11T06:01:00.000-07:00

So you have your playgroup set up. You've got a date, time, place. You've got moms and kids coming. You probably already have the mother's name, and phone number (If you don't; it might come in handy.....just FYI).

But do you need more information?

Perhaps. Your style of group, and what it does determines what information you need from your members. Sometimes if you don't have that information, you can mess up; big time. Here's some information you may want to consider collecting:

Mother's Full Name
Mother's Birthday
Children's Names and birthdays
Home/Cell Phone
Address
How they heard about the group (helps you find what to invest your promoting in)
Husband's name and contact
What they are most interested in (helps you determine what to put on your calendar)
Children's allergies

Until recently, I have never considered need the address of our members, but I recently found myself wishing I had that information to mail out actual birthday cards. I thought it would have been an nice touch for our outreach program. It may seem a bit of stretch collecting husband's information, but I came very close to needing it once. (My member was in a car accident, her and the child was safe, but she was very dazed and confused when it happened. We called her husband to let him know).

Do you have any other infomation you collect from your members? What do you use it for?

How to run a clothing swap

2010-10-08T04:08:00.000-07:00

Everything that clothed my daughter when she was a baby was usually brand new. Now with three kids, new is not normally the option. Thankfully between consignment sales, yard sales, and thrift shops I clothe my children (and myself) affordabley. Gosh they grow quick!

But if your town is so small that you do not have a local sale or shop, playgroups can still save the dollar by having a clothing swap! Here is a how to:

Let you members know as you would traditionally. They need to know what they can bring (or can't), how they should seperate it, and when and where to bring it. Be sure to let them know if they can or cannot take home their belongings if no one takes them (my suggestion is that you have a donation pick up after the swap; if they were willing to give them away to someone in the playgroup, then they should be willing to give them away otherwise. It makes it easier on you this way--you'll find out why below.)
Determine how much space you need and what areas will be for what colthes. Should there be divisions of girls and boys? Should infant colthing be seperated by months?
Have clear markings the day of where items should be placed. Have enough room for each pile--twice. A space to hold the items, and a place to put them as moms dig through the pile.
Make sure to have garbage bags on hand- the moms will probably bring bags for their items, but it's good to have some just incase they wind up getting more.
If there are concerns about keeping the swap fair, each memeber can take only the amount of item they bring in. Most of the time, moms wind up taking much less.
Decide who gets what turn. In cookie swaps I've been too, we take turns looking in the pile by drawings. The first drawing (in order of birthdates) everyone picks one item. The second drawing (in order of oldest child) everyone picks two items. etc......

Once everyone has a fill of items, the remainder can be donated or saved (for a yard sale fundraiser or for the next swap).

Just a thought...

2010-10-07T08:59:00.000-07:00

Last night I finished watching the latest episode of Survivor. Jimmy T is the fourth voted out. What got him in the end was his puny-kid insecure attitude of "Put me in coach" syndrome. Whining about not being used to his fullest potential etched on half of the tribe; if not more.

Regardless of whether Jimmy T would have lead the tribe to a win; we'll never know. But I learned something valuable about leadership through Jimmy T and for that, I thank him (or perhaps I should thank survivor directors for editing in this part of the story). I'm going to share this lesson with you.

How can your team feel secure in your leadership when:

1. You don't feel secure about yourself
2. You can't make yourself a trusted follower.

It's not a complicated thing to understand, and I won't go into details about this episode or previous ones save for this: Jimmy T obviously did not feel secure in his place and it did not make him a trusted follower. All leaders as one point were trusted followers. If you can't trust yourself, others will not trust you either. It's a vicious cycle.

So if you are wondering why you're shouting "Right! Right! Right!" and your kayak team steers left, maybe it's not your team that is the problem. Are you shouting with insecurities? Do you trust yourself? Can you step back and be a follower first?

Creating a Facebook Fan Page!

2010-10-06T03:54:00.000-07:00

OK, I'm usually rambling on and on about different playgroup related issues, but today I'm gonna make this post short n' sweet. If you haven't already, make yourself a fan page on Facebook for your group. It's just a no-brainer. Quite frankly, many of your moms already have a facebook page, and log onto facebook more than the group's website.

I used my status updates for promoting things like drawings, events, and participation, but really it can be about anything related to your 'fans' at all. Keep them thinking about your playgroup means momentum will keep up..and that's a good thing.

Note I am NOT talking about registering ANOTHER email to create a separate profile (although it can be useful in ways too). You can create your own fan page from your existing profile; it's almost like an extension. It has it's own wall, and an information page and can have other options if you choose.

You can access your own facebook page from your profile once you create it. It is located just above your friends list under the category "Ads and Pages" (you may have to click the see more link if you use alot of applications.).

Normally I say happy organizing.....but today.......Happy Facebooking!

Venue Catastrophe!

2010-10-05T06:23:00.000-07:00

Venue Catastrophe!!! How to avoid it, and why it’s important.

“Sorry, Closed due to crop rot from the rain” The sign reads the day of our event.Many members said it wasn’t my fault; the venue should have called me (they knew we were coming), but it was partly my fault. Had I followed the advice below, I would have avoided the whole problem………Sometimes organizers become so focused on our members that we tend to forget to maintain contact with our venues; or worse, never make contact to begin with. Venue relationships are important. Take these steps to ensure you carry good relationships with your venues, and your group will benefit.

1. Check it out! Visit during business hours and ask yourself these questions: Is it clean, friendly, and inviting? How is the service/staff? Is it easy to find? Does it have enough space (parking and seating)? Can members pay individually the day of?

2. Call them! Introduce your group, explain what day you plan to use the facility, and double check all their information. Don’t trust websites. One time my venue’s business hours changed, and their snack bar was out of business! Turns out, their website’s last update was two years ago! Write down the name of the person you spoke with: many times when this information has become handy.

3. Remind them! About two days before the event call them. This could have prevented the ‘crop rot disappointment’ I referred to earlier. Give them your head count, and remind them what day and time, especially for smaller places like coffee shops or libraries. I know one coffee shop owner was a little upset when we planned an event at her facility and never told her. A bike group also met up there that day; The shop wound up understaffed and out of space. As a result some bikers were upset because they had no place to sit.

4. Arrive early. Make sure everything is set for your group. Make small talk with the owner: doesn’t have to be much; after all they are working. It may even land you a sponsor.

5. Send your thank you card. It doesn’t reallly have to be a card; it can be an email, a couple pictures, or whatever! It will make your group stand out; Keep in mind the more memorable your group is; the more flexible the venue will be with you.

6. Keep in Touch. I try to update my venue information quarterly. I do this because there may be seasonal venues or venues we haven’t used in a longtime, and touching base solidifies your relationship. Again you don’t want the venue to forget your group!

One other thing that I’ve also found to be handy: Have a backup of list. Thankfully, our pumpkin patch catastrophe wasn’t a complete disaster because of this. If you maintain a good venue relationship with your backup list, they may even allow you to just show up last minute!

More than a mom's phone

2010-10-04T06:25:00.000-07:00

One of the most valuable items I use for my group is my android phone. I'm particularly partial to verizon wireless, so unfortunetly I'm only familair with those apps, but iphones also have simular apps too. I thought that I would list the type of apps I use for my group as helpful resources to your playgroups as well!

EMAIL I use to check my email like 12 times a day. Seriously. I had this constant fear that I would miss an important email. I love how my phone bleeps everytime I have an email.

CALENDAR The calendar app I use is Jorte, and although I'm not completely happy with it ( I would really like to color code my events by grouping, i.e. mom's group, drs. appointments, etc) it is the best calendar app with options. It links with my google calendar, which links directly to my group site as well! It's a win win as far as that goes.

TO DO LIST. My friend has the iphone and uses todoodle, I use Astrid. I love dividing everything into categories, and the reminders, and repeating tasks. It's wonderful for all those little tasks I forget about like calling the venue two days before. I can even use the GPS reminder bells to remind me to drop off deposits for reservations when I'm close to that area.

SOCIAL MEDIA There are plenty of apps out there that are for websites like Facebook, Twitter or the like. For playgroups facebook is a portal for everyday run of the mill contact. It's wonderful.

Finally I had to put this one in here, because I run my group on Meetup.com. It's called Socializer, and it is strictly for those who are members of meetup.com: organizers and members. It makes quick access to the calendar, updates, etc on the website. I can check the RSVPs from my phone, look up directions to my event, etc. It has been a valueable resource when running my group.

So there you have it! The basic apps for running a group on your smartphone! Happy Organizing!

Moms Group vrs Playgroup

2010-10-01T06:37:00.000-07:00

I use the terms Mom's group and Playgroup as interchangeable words. Sometimes it is fitting, but for the most part, they are two different types of groups. Do you know what yours is?

A playgroup is a group of children that come together to play. Usually supervised by a parent or many parents, the playtime can be unstructured or structured or a combination. Play groups are often small, meet at parks, homes, and other public places appealing to children. Most playgroups are designed for preschool age children for social interaction until they reach kindergarten.

A Mother's group is focused on the mother. They do not need to meet with children in tow, but can. Some moms groups provide childcare. I joined a mother's group that called themselves a 'playgroup' and I found it quite silly really. These mothers (most of them with babies) would meet at places like coffee shops, or go for walks in the strollers, or meet for lunch with children in tow or moms night out. Notice there isn't much playing involved.

I tried to argue this with the organizer once, and she insisted her group is a playgroup. I still maintain my argument---a playgroup involves play for the children. On the other hand, I do not believe that a playgroup that offers a moms night out is a mother's group.

Granted you can have a combination. Many national mother's groups are also playgroups or have sub-groups which are playgroups. My group is mostly playgroup, but we do stroller walks, and have mom's night out. We focusing on bring in child care to start a regular mom's morning off.

Because moms groups and playgroups are closely related I am not going to 'forbid' any one of you from calling your playgroup from what you wish. When I first started my playgroup I did NOT want a playgroup. I wanted a mother's group. My first true assistant wanted a playgroup. Playgroups are easier to manage and still cultivate friendships for the parent as well. However, my point is that you need to be clear what you are offering your potential members.

Is it a playgroup?

Is a moms group?

Does your member know the difference?

Halloween party idea!

2010-09-30T12:53:00.001-07:00

Today I am calling local active adult communities in hopes of landing an awesome event. Our Halloween party is taking place during the week; and we thought it would be fun to go trick or treating together. Seeing as this Halloween takes place on a Sunday it is going to be hard to do. Too many dads have to get up in the morning to go to work, and most go to church that day. Instead what we have come up with is throwing our party at an active adult community room, and trick or treating our residents....
How cool is that? Some of these resident have no families around and rarely see young kids.
Here is how I am planning to do this. Next week I will pass around door hangers giving the residents information about what day and tine we will trick or treat. If the resident wants to participate they can place the door hanger on their door they day of trick or treating. I also figured our door hanger should include volunteer info for our child care program in case they would interested. Retirees are perfect candidates to watch children for our mom's day off event; they are readily available on weekdays!

Hopefully the idea will work and I'll post a review in November!
Happy Halloween!

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Fitted Leaders

2010-09-30T06:21:00.000-07:00

I am not the best playgroup organizer. I know I could do so much better than what I do. However, I do know that I was meant to be an organizer. I thoroughly enjoy what I do. It's only natural for me to take on leadership positions in other mom's group as well, but I know my place.

I am an assistant coordinator for my military MOPS group. I love MOPS, but there are some positions in MOPS I could never fit no matter how hard I try. Discussion Group Leaders is one of them.

A Discussion Group Leader manages about 6-10 moms in a subgroup of MOPS. She initiates conversation, mediates it, maintains it, and help cultivate friendships within the intimate group. WAIT A MINUTE! Am I a walking hypocrite?I can organize a mom's group but I can't innate conversation, mediate it, and maintain it? I can't help cultivate friendships? Sure I can. However, I would have to avoid a few strong personalities traits I have.

Sometimes I'm overwhelming. My personality gets to be too much around certain people. In conversations, I tend to dominate it, not nurture it. I know this; and I am working on it; but it's a natural instinct, so I just don't think that I would do as well as others in the position. My Discussion Group Leader in a different MOPS is pretty quiet, she has no problem with letting others have their say. She also is encouraging, and can jump in if the conversation starts to die. She keeps the group balanced. That is a good discussion group leader, and why I would could not do well. I like the spot light too much.

I could never lead a MOPS group either. My assistant coordinator position is the highest I can ever go, because while I am Christian, I am not someone destined to enlighten others. I'm very opinionated when it comes to religion, and MOPs is a Christian organization, but supports mothers of all religions. I know that I could not fulfill the Christian leadership correctly.

So where does lead to? What I am trying to say is that when you are looking for assistants, you need to know first what personalities and qualities that will fit the role. Sometimes it will be easy; like a finance person must be good with numbers, and balancing a budget. However some positions are a little more tricky. So here are come questions you can use to help figure out selecting your playgroup leaders! Happy organizing!

Questions
What is the leaders duties?
What personality traits is best for this?
Who is going to work closely with them?
What experience do they have?
What is the person's strength and weaknesses?

Recipe: Rice Mice

2010-09-29T06:10:00.000-07:00

This recipe's orginal credit goes to familyfun.com. Unfortunetly, their instructions were not percise, and it left you with no idea how much of rice, cream cheese, and yogurt to use.

So we did some playing around. I choose to use string cheese for the tails instead of the chives. I also decided to use fresh sugar snap peas because I thought the kids would like snapping them apart. After cooking the rice and letting it cool, I tried mixing the rice with cream cheese. I used 2-3 tablespoons of fcream cheese, and 1 cup of rice. I left out the yogurt because i cooked the rice in chicken broth, and didn't have any yogurt..so I figured it would taste good anyway.

Check out some the pictures from the playdate! Enjoy!

A Closer Look: Social Toddler

2010-09-28T06:33:00.000-07:00

Social Toddler is a site specifically made for parenting your preschoolers (toddlers) and bring them out into social atmospheres. You can search, and run your own playgroup, find activites to do. Unfortunetly, I am not very impressed.

Besides having a very limited system in comparison with other website I've used for organizing playgroup, social toddler does not compete well with search engine optimization. Plain an simple; for you non-geeky moms, that means when your search for 'playgroups' with your local area will not come up high in the list-- you are not going to get as much traffic as cafemom or meetup.com.

I have hopes. If it grows successfully, it will add in new features, and find new things to do in other local areas. Social Toddler does not cover my area; Spokane.

OK. Perhaps I'm bias. Check it our for yourself it may be what you are looking for!

Diversity!!

2010-09-25T05:31:00.000-07:00

One thing that I love about playgroups is the opportunity to teach our children to be accepting of diversity. I've had trouble with acceptance in the past. When I was young, I had trouble being friendly to dark races; especially black. I still have problems knowing how to act around people with special needs.

I've been fortunate enough to meet mothers of different heritages. I met a mom whom came from the Netherlands, a couple originally from England, some from Canada. I've met blacks, Hispanics, Indian, and orientals. I've met mothers of special needs children.

One of my assistants has a sister with autism. I admit the first time I met her, I was uncomfortable (almost three years ago now!). I did my best to set the example for my children. Several months ago, we had a family of a special needs child join the playgroup. Although this is not the first time we had a special needs child join the group; this family stood out. This mother is super-mom. This child is no different that any other child in our playgroup.

I am happy to say that I am now overcoming my uncertainty of diversity. I have found that these special people; mothers, fathers, children; can teach us so much more than just acceptance. They teach us about life. They teach us about happiness. They teach about love. My heart is connected to all of them, and I hope I pass my love for them onto my children.

Participating in playgroups gives a family multiple advantages. Teaching children (and even ourselves) about acceptance of differences is a great one. If you ever have the opportunity, embrace the chance with open arms. Believe me, you'll be glad you did.

Group Rules

2010-09-24T05:00:00.000-07:00

One question that a lot of newbie organizers ask is what 'rules' they should use for their group. I can tell you right now, I don't know. Every group is different. Ultimately, it depends on you and what you want out of your group. So here are the questions you need to ask yourself;

Are you going to organize on or offline?

If your organize offline, you'll need to have a regular meeting day, time, and place. You'll have to print out schedules, and a phone list for your members.

Online groups tend to have members that fall off the map or slack in parcipation. Some online groups have rules regarding consistant activity in playgroups, online activity, or RSVPs.

Do you have a set time and day or do you want diversity?

If you are planning on having multiple days, times, and places, you may want to also insure your attendance follows through. Many groups, esp. online groups may have an attendance requirement of attending so many playgroups in a certain time frame (for example, once every month.)

Do want a large group, or small group?

Some leaders want to inlcude everyone that would like to join. Some want to ensure they are really going to get to know all the members. To do so, organizers will limit the memberships and require their attendance to be frequent. The downside to this that members do grow out or graduate out of groups and finding new members might be harder than anticipated.

Is your group diverse in religious beliefs, race, culture, ethinicity?

Unfortnetly diversity can also bring about conflict. It can be toxic and may need to be controlled. I am not saying groups should divide into pregigious arch-rivals. Sometimes diversity promotes growth and understanding; which is a good thing. If I remember correctly, the phrase from A Day No Pigs Will Die; "Fences bring men together". If your purpose for joining or running a playgroup is to connect with individual families who carry a specific simiularity like religion or race, by all means; state this in your group rules.

How should allergies, sicknesses, and chronic diesases be handled?

Sometimes children can be deathly allergic to foods, such as peanuts, where even the smell can hurt them. When it comes to sickness, some families are very concerned about exposure, while others do not even shudder at continuious coughing and running noses. The question organizers should consider is how to handle allergies should the issue come up. Should all members be unable to bring certain foods? Is there a process in place for emergencies? Should members with specific allergies be excluded from certain activities?

Is solitation allowed in the group?

Many moms try to supplement income by running businesses out of their home. On occasion, you will find a mom joining seemingly only interested in promoting their business. If this is a concern for your group, you may want to develop rules for this, and the concequences for violation.

In the beginings of my adventures in organizing, I believed that rules were needed. Two years ago, I had enough of rules, and tried to organize as rule-free as possible. I'm still trying to find a happy medium. I can say this--if you choose to implement rules, you MUST apply them to everyone in the group; You must have consquences and you must follow through them as well. Otherwise you'll end up with a half-baked group and two eggs short of a waffle.

Stay tuned for more on advice on groups guidelines in the weeks to come!!! Happy Organizing!!

Media and Playgroup Discrimnation

2010-09-23T05:44:00.000-07:00

Time for a personal, emotional post. It never crossed my mind that I would EVER want to write about this, but I had an epipheny as I was brushing my teeth last night. This is something that desperately needs to get out there.

It is completely natural to protect our children from threats; but aren't we going a tad bit overboard? I'm not talking about rubbing sanitizer on our hands or even putting on those grocery cart covers. I'm talking about extreme measures we take; like not allowing them to use the public restroom, or play in a community pool because of the possibility of germs.

THIS (not quite) JUST IN: germs are everywhere. Do you know how many germs at in an ER room? You don't avoid taking your child to the ER if they are extrememly sick do you? For your child's sake I hope not. Why is it that our children's phyiscal health so much more important than their mental and emotional health? I'm serious. If you limit your child from participating in fun activities because of germ, you are limiting them from enjoying the life that you strive so hard to preserve.

Media hype tend to send people in a whirlwind frenzy. Even blood relatives did not want to visit with me for fear of getting 'infected' (Since when did I become a walking diease?) Here's where I get rather upset. I was removed from a playgroup (over a year ago now!) because the leader considered me a 'threat'. At the time, I was struggling with relaspes from an infectious diesase. Normally removal is a matter of unreconcible differences, or violating guidelines; which is understandable. This dismisal is completely out of line because;

I never attended a playdate if I had an active infection
I am very good about keeping hands clean and santized
My household members have been free of infections (at the time) for over a year! (Now it's almost two years! I might also add I am cured, but no--I'm not rejoining that playgroup).

"I don't feel comfortable........ Afterall, I have a newborn to think about" the leader emailed. YEAH. At the time, I was eight months pregnant; I also had a newborn to think about. Doctors assured me I have nothing to worry about. "From things I've read and talking to family members who agree, I'm going to ask that you and your children do not attend playdates."

So here's my bone and I'm gonna pick it. Should we limit who our families interact with because of their health history for 'chance' of becoming infected? Absolutely Not! Ask any doctor, and they will tell you, unless your child is a specail health risk, you are more at risk by going to the grocery store than by playing with someone with a history.

So.....stop freaking out about the latest Media hype. The people being hospitalized for it is only a small percentage, and most of those infected experience a very mild case. If you educate yourself on the symptoms and follow directions to prevent, you shouldn't have a problem. AND If you are really concerned talk to your family doctor-- not the media.

Attendance Policy

2010-09-22T06:27:00.000-07:00

Today we are talking about rules! More specifically Attendance Policies.

Who needs an attendance policy:

a group with low attendance or
a group with limited space or
a group that provides childcare and number of caregivers are limited
a group looking to 'sell' their group for sponsors or
a group looking for committed members

What is it:

Basically it is a group rule that stipulates a member attend a certain number of events in a certain time period. Some groups have a 'attend once a month policy', and others have a "miss three events and you're out". There is no perfect amount because it depends on your groups dynamics.

How it works:

This the way I worked my attendance policy (I don't use one anymore): My group meets every weekday, so I used to require that members attend once a month. At the beginning of the month I would pull out my member roster and star everyone's name who has RSVPd for the month. Those that have no stars I would write an email reminding them to find an event to come to.

Mid week, I would once again, pull out my roster. This time, I would cross out any names who have already attended an event. and I would bullet anyones name who is RSVPd for the upcoming events this month. I then write another email to those who have not RSVPd to anything, and to those who have not come to anything yet; even if they are RSVPd.

At the end of the month, I cross off all members who have attended an event and email the rest, asking if they are well, and if they need any help, because they have not attended an event and we are worried about them. I also let them know that we've sent out emails this month to them, and haven't heard back, so if we do not hear back within three days, we will excuse them from membership.

Note, I do not like removing members, but it may be a necessary action if you want to meet your group goals. Decide with your leadership team what actions you wish take at each situation.

Attendance policies help foster stronger friendships, and make the group come together. Once you decide what you want for your group, you can decide if an attendance policy is the right way to go.

Ickie Sickies

2010-09-21T07:49:00.000-07:00

It's three a.m. You should be sleeping. Instead you are cleaning, washing, and administering medicine. Yup. Your child is sick. As much as I am sure that you love taking care of your child, there is nothing like the fear of helplessness as you watch your child throw up the rest of dinner. I can't tell you how many times I've gone through the ickie sickies with my children.

Regardless of what anyone says, germs are no more dangerous if they come from a playgroup or from your grocery store. A germ is a germ, no matter where it came from. Breeding grounds of germs should not scare you from attending playdates.

However, control is something you should and can do. Here are tips for keeping your playgroup healthy.

Implement a sick policy and make sure your members know it.
Block off non-play areas for the children. Sanitze the area before the playdate, and any toys that can be sanitized as well.
Make sure you have hand sanitizer available, as well as soap and water.
Wash hands when appropiate
Keep any foods at apropiate temps.
Stay educated on current health concerns, and ask a doctor if concerned.

Keep these simple tips in mind, and you playgroups will be healthy as can be! Happy Playing!

I would do anything to prevent my children from getting sick. Anything.

At playgroups it's essential to make sure it's a healthy environment. Make use of these tips to keep your playgroups healthy.

Implement a Sick Policy

Clean and Sanitize toys if : they have been mouthed, or come in contact with sick children (so if you are hosting and your toys have not been sanitized since the last sickness epidemic, time to haul out the bleach.)

Keep hand sanitizer around. Use after playdates

Have a place for diaper changes.

If food is at the playdate, follow regular precautions. (wash hands, don't let food spoil, etc)

Sick Policy

I do not know many playgroup organizers who do not have a sick policies. Like it or not kids go hand and hand with germs. The written rules differ from group to group, but I've provided mine for an example. I've added my comments in a separate color for more detailed explanation. Share yours with us too!!!

M.A.M.A.

We hate to see our little ones get sick. To keep everyone healthy please stay at home

If you or a child become ill. This can be anything from a fever to just not acting well. I cannot tell you how many times a child wound up being sick at a playdate. Common stories would be "They were fine this morning, or Gosh I didn't know they were sick." Further digging would reveal that the child acting sluggish in the morning, or didn't eat breakfast, acting extra fussy.

Has bodily fluid symptoms. This included, but not limited to vomiting, severe diarrhea, etc. Remember that you do not have to have a fever to be sick. Some moms will ignore the symptom if there is no fever!

Has had a fever above 99 degrees in the past 24 hours. Sometimes a parent will give a child fever reducers like tylenol or motrin, and then see their temp go down, so they think it will be fine to attend the playdate the next morning. Only to find the next morning at the playdate, that the fever is not gone.

Has a contagious disease including but not limited to pink eye, fifth, chicken pox. Please ask a doctor before returning to playgroups. Obviously you can't be sure the parent did this, but it is a nice suggestion.

Recipe Time: Cinnamon Tortillas

2010-09-19T05:10:00.000-07:00

I was first introduced to this concept when I was in elementary school. Another family went on a fishing trip with us, and brought these along. The thing I find so appealing is children can easily make them, building valuable spreading and folding skills later on. (The picture BTW I had a hard time making the butter and cinnamon sugar show up because the kids didn't get it all out on the edges! LOL. So instead I just stacked them and put sugar and cinnamon on top.

Cinnamon Tortillas

cinnamon and sugar mixture
butter or cream cheese
tortillas
spreading sticks (popcycle sticks for young children, plastic if they are preschool age)

Allow the kids to spread the butter or cheese on the tortilla. Cinnamon mixture can be put on two different ways: 1. spoon it on and then dump loose sugar on to a cookie tray. 2. use a shaker container

Fold the tortilla onto itself making it a long holdable roll up. Enjoy!

A Closer Look: Meetup.com

2010-09-19T02:46:00.000-07:00

A quick Internet search anywhere for "moms groups" will bring you to meetup.com website; usually within the top three. Meetup is where I got my start, it is safe to say, I'm bias. But not blind. So I thought I would review the website I use today!

First Look

At first look the website appears fairly simple. I assure you, it's not that simple. Once you create a an account and join a group it looks like a normal 'group' website. However, once you take on an organizer (Organizers pay $19 a month, or less with other payment plans) role it becomes complicated.

The best part about meetup is the search engine optimization. If a moms were to google "Moms group in Chicago, IL" or the like, one of the first links would be to meetup.com. This feature alone makes it worth it to me to pay for the use. I usually get two-three new members a month just from this alone.

Calendar Features

The calendar allows members to veiw events in a list, or on a monthly calendar. Organizers can add the address, notes, pictures, maps, links, set specific to RSVPs and noticfications (like not allowing maybe RSVPs, and emailing the organizer when someone rsvps), ask questions when members RSVP, and even has options for payment if the event costs money. There is even manual and automatic waiting lists if you select RSVP limit is filled. Organizers can edit, copy, and email members related to that event (those who have rsvpd yes and/or no, and/or those who have not RSVPd.).

The calendar also allows you add notes, and make draft events.

Adminstration Tools

The organizer has the ability to select privacy levels, and how members join (automatially join, request permission, etc.). There is so much to go over, but the group has it's own 'webaddress' or you can use your own domain. The webiste also has a group forum, which the organizer can organize into folders, and adjust prviacy levels. There is also a photo section, mailing list, polls section, and the about page (for non members to learn about the group).

The organizer can also appoint other admintstrators to the group. The options are as follows:

co-organizer- can adjust everything the organizer does, except for the payment for the subscription.

assistant organizer- can do everything the organizer does, with the exception of group settings (privacy levels, welcome letter, etc.)

Event Organizers can only control events. They cannot set up polls, or edit the message board forums.

Member Even Organizers- members who are select to take of one event. They cannot touch any other events on the calendar.

Support

There are many vitual support groups in the 'organizer category' that are happy to offer support and guidence. A quick search in the website's search bar under "Organizer" will pull up many groups for this. Meetup headquarters is stationed in New York, so techinical support is available eastern time. The email for support is support@meetup.com

The downside is it can be complicated to figure out. Even with the weath of features I mentioned, the site has a lot more available. It also has a fee for organizing. With that fee you can run three groups, if you choose, but believe me, three is a lot to handle. Meetup does have a 30 day money back garentee. So there is no risk in trying it out.
Happy organizing!

Pizazz Your Playgroup

2010-09-17T11:21:00.000-07:00

Giving your Playgroup a bit of pizazz

Sometimes a playgroup meeting regularly for the same activities can become very routine. In fact it can even put you in a rut. Members may start to lose interest, or the group may lose some enthusiasm. But never fear! There are plenty of things you can do to add a bit of pizazz to your playgroup.

•Theme
Your playgroups don't have to be just 'come over and play'! Add a theme!! It could be something simple from doing a 'teddy bear picnic', where children bring a teddy bear and mom brings a picnic item and everyone meets at a local park. Or it can be a full scale Luau themed party! It's all up to you!

•Food
Food is something anyone cannot do without. When it's good food, it attracts a great social atmosphere. Instead of supplying a regular snack, consider having a potluck for 'best or famous recipes'. Everyone loves to have people rave about their dishes, and everyone loves to indulge once and while.

•Activities

Structured Activities are appealing to parents and preschoolers. Children learn through play. By giving them an unusual activity in a group setting, you are giving the opportunity to learn in a group environment. Preschoolers would be thrilled with making craft projects, learning to play rhythms on instruments, etc. However, these activities may be a bit advanced for an infant or toddler. Remember-- It doesn't have to be complicated!!!! You can make a fun activity just out of old (but clean) adult socks. For example, Toddlers love learning how to dress themselves. Large socks makes it easy for them to get their feet into. They are learning an important skill, while getting enjoyment out of playing with mommy and daddy's socks. For Preschoolers, who are learning to group things in categories, you have them separate them from darks and lights, or match pairs of socks together!
Here are some more ideas for activities for you playgroups:

Circle time activities

Parachutes games

playing with puppets

dress up

sensory play (i.e. play dough, silly putty, sand)

•Places

Do you remember the excitement of riding in the car on the way to zoo when you were a child? Was there a special place that your parent's or your school would make a trip to? There are alot of local attractions just waiting to be visited! Your playgroups do not have to be limited to your home! Check your phone book under the categories Attractions, or Children's or Entertainment , and you may stumble on local resources you didn't know about. Ask around from your members about fun places they go. Then call and ask the facility about having an event there! Things you'll need to know:

◦The capacity of the space if you will be secluded to one room
◦The price of admission, parking, etc.
◦Discounts if they are available
◦Operation days and hours
◦Ask about having a private play date at the facility
◦If food is allowed
◦What you are required/ or suggested to bring

Once you have a good idea about the venue, plan your event. You may want to coordinate it with the facility. By doing so, you can avoid a lot of potential problems. Some of the most common problems are

members getting lost or not finding the group
the staff of the facility being unprepared for the extra boost in attendance that day
the facility being closed due to operation changes, weather, or high attendance (facility gets filled)

Keeping in Contact with your venue is always a good idea. Here are the suggested tips for corresponding with your venue:

When first approaching a new venue, tell them about your group, who you are, your experience, and then your interest in their service. Ask them the necessary questions.
Let them know about your first event with them, even if you don't have to reserve space. Just in case you happen to have another group meeting there too.
A week before the event call and give them a reminder and estimate how many will come.
The day before, do a confirmation call and tell them the final head count.
A week after, thank them for the event and try to schedule your next one if interested.
Once a quarter, double check with the venues information (ie. open and close times, prices, etc)

Happy Playing!

Original Group Names; Easy as 123!

2010-09-16T06:41:00.000-07:00

Need help picking a name? If you are looking for the perfect name, here are tips!

1. Location, Location, Location!
Think about your group and locations associated with it. It doesn't have to mean your city's name. Perhaps you are limiting your group to a certain neighborhood? Maybe you meet reoccurring at your favorite park? Perhaps you'd like to open it to people within your county or even your state! (wow!) Make a list of all the possible locations you can use for your group name.

2. Adjective!!

If you could think of one word that describes your group, what would it be? Fun? Awesome? Creative? Active?...Write down as many as you can think of, then see what fits best with your group's name.

3. Who?

With any group, people need to know who you are. For example, everyone knows when they walk into a red hat ladies convention, that they shouldn't expect to see young men wearing red hats! Why? Because the word ladies is in their group's name. Whether your group is for walkers, parents, young moms,etc, stating it your name will help people understand what's your groups about. And don't limit yourself to one choice, look it up in a thesaurus and find similar words too!
Once you've taken these three steps you've got a basis to start your name out on. Here are some examples of group names made from the advice above:

Hayford&2nd Fabulous Friends
Eastside Active Moms and Kids
Cheney's Child Connection

Organizer's nightmare; DRAMA

2010-09-15T06:46:00.000-07:00

There are days that I want to just sit on my bed, stuff my face in a pillow, and scream until my pillow is a doughnut. Those are my worst days. You can be assured; it is probably because I have encountered, yet again, another drama session.

If you organize enough members, for a long enough period of time, you'll find one. I have had my generous share of drama. To be honest, I do enjoy a bit of drama. Sorry to those organizers who believe playgroups can be 'drama free' but....you are dealing with social dynamics, and with that comes drama!! Come on, truthfully, a little drama makes life interesting (Which is I why I believe God invented in-laws.).

There is never a surpreme way to handle it when it does rear it's ugly head, but there is plenty you can learn from it, and a positive attitude to have about it. Every helping of drama has taught me a different lesson. The best part, in my opinion is drama leads to something better; communicating. Drama is a door to communication; you just have to step through it.

Even if in the end the two sides do not agree, when true communication happens, both sides feel validated in their problem, and can have closure. I'm still not an expert on communication, but here is what I've learned.

1. Stop, look, listen. You will never understand the other persons side unless you do this. You might as well listen to their side first because once they feel validated, they will listen to you!
2. Express your thoughts as they are 'your fault'. I'm not saying they are your fault, but if you express them as your problem and your fault, the opposite party will give you their sympathy, and feel less threatened. Instead of saying "You never call be back when you say you will." say "I feel like I'm not a priority to be called back." It's okay to use the word 'you' occasionally, but I try to avoid it at all costs. It takes practice.
3. Remember that we are all human. Honestly, this is something someone said to me once as a joke when I told him I was mad at him. When I asked if they knew why, he said "for being human?". It struck a chord with me and I will never forget it. You know what the beautiful thing about being human is? We all have feelings!

If you find the opposite party does not want to follow you through the door of communication, there are a few things you can do. Talk it out with someone outside of your circle. Give it time, that might be what he or she needs. Let go. If the person never comes around, you are going to have to realize you've tried your best, and that's all you can do. At least you stayed honest to yourself, and gave him or her the opportunity of friendship.

Drama can lead to better understanding, better communication, and better friends. It is not the enemy. I am definitely not encouraging one to grab a spoon and start stirring the pot, but if the pot is mixing, don't be afraid to taste what's cookin (Provided the meal is yours and not someone elses.)!

Peanut Free Playgroups

2010-09-14T12:56:00.000-07:00

My daughter attends a peanut free kindergarten classroom. This means there will be no PB&J sandwiches this year. It's alright with me, but I have an advantage; I've been avoiding peanut butter for a while now. Thankfully we did find out that she is not allergic to peanuts, but even so, her kindergarten classroom has five children who are. One of the children is deathly allergic--- meaning if they even smell it they can have a reaction.

The child care facilities I worked at also have peanut free policies--- peanut allergy is becoming a major concern....but is it concern enough to make your playgroup peanut-free? If your group is small, it will be relativity simple to just ask the parents about allergies. If your group is large, however, it gets tricky.

When I lived in Tucson, I ran a military moms group, and mentioned that peanut butter items would not be allowed at potlucks because of my daughter. I also asked the group of 30 moms if any of their children had allergies so we could be aware of them.

Little did I know that a drama mama was just waiting to attack! "That's not fair. My children won't eat much, they are picky eaters...It's unreasonable to tell me my children need to starve because your child has an allergy."

OK. In my defense, I only said potlucks. I didn't want *all* the children to have something with peanut butter and tell my one year old daughter she couldn't. Now she's five, and understands (sort of) what an allergy is. Since my daughter's allergy is not life-threatening I had no problem if we had a brown bagged our lunches and someone brought along a PB&J. What if it was life-threatening?

This is the way I've handled it, and I'll continue to handle it, but it's not the only way. Since we meet up multiple times a week, I put a disclaimer on any event that involves food. If your child has a food allergy and you wish to attend this playdate, please inform the organizer.

Plain and simple. It's the responsibility of the parent. Why shouldn't it be? For the three years we thought my daughter had an allergy I made sure she stayed away from it. If other people are involved there is a larger possibility for mistakes.

Here are some common allergy foods (pictured above):

Wheat
Milk
Eggs
Peanuts
Soy
Shellfish

So, what happens if you need to adjust? The best way is to talk to the parent. For the longest time I used almond butter in place of peanut butter. Then I found soy butter, and I love it! Most parents will know a possible substitute if the original cannot be used. You'll also have to find out how allergic the child is for safety measures.

If all else fails, fall back on your leadership team for a voted decision. Remember not every group is the same, and while one group might be allergen free another group may not. So whether your group is allergen free or not there is probably a group the opposite of you close by.

In your town: Petting Zoos!

2010-09-13T06:32:00.000-07:00

If you are living in a large metropolis area in the united states, you are bound to have a petting zoo within two hours of your city. I say that with confidence because even though we do have one in our area, the business is not the best with customer service or organization. Trust me, we've tried it three times. Each time the playgroup has left with a bad taste their mouth.

So I have been on the hunt for a petting zoo relatively close to our city. The long search had left me discouraged, and disappointed. Until one day, I was at a local grocery store, and noticed a flyer for "kids day". I noticed it was going to have a petting zoo there. At first I thought it was the local petting zoo, but I figured it did not hurt to ask. The least they could tell me it that it is the same petting zoo we've been using.

So I asked.

This petting zoo is also close to our home, and is not an 'officail' business. But it had everything a petting zoo could offer. The ladies were amazing! This kids had a great time.

A few weeks later I noticed an ad on craigslist about a kids day at a local day care. Kind of like a promotion for business, but nonetheless it also offered a petting zoo. So I once again asked. Turns out the event used someone who had two rabbits, a tortoise, and a duck. OK, maybe it's a horse shy of a petting zoo, but still the kids would have fun.

My point is, you don't have to have an actual petting zoo around to get the petting zoo experience. Keep your eyes peeled, and you may find petting zoos in your own backyard. Ask around; word of mouth leads you to wonderful things. If all else fails maybe someone will have an uncle or grandparent to raises llamas, and goats. Kids are not really too picky about the animals they see.

Stay at Home Mom's Guide to Playgroups

2010-09-10T08:08:00.000-07:00

As much as I would like to share my secrets of succesful organizing, I have an ugly shelfish side. I really do NOT want to share this book with anyone. I cannot tell you how many times I've opened this book.... ok, ok. Enough taunting.

Anyone who even thinks about setting up a playgroup needs The Ultamite Stay At Home Mom's Guide to Playgroups by Carren Joye. It's just a no-brainer. If you look at all the Mom's groups books in bookstores, you'll find very few: this is the best choice.
The other books do not cover the organizing side of playgroups as well. Plain and Simple. You can find many books on activities for children under kindergarten age it's ridiculous. Many 'playgroup' books take these ideas, throw them together, and call it by that name. It may breifly talk about running groups, or whatnot, but it does not go into details. Carren's book is the most detailed book out there.

However; I do have complaints. It doesn't really touch enough on drama. Perhaps that is because Carren's playgroups never reached the multitude that online playgroups are. Perhaps, I and my fellow organizers that I've met so far, are just drama-mamas.

Nevertheless, it's a good jumping off book. I just hope that you still have questions afterward to relay to me!

Just can't say no.

2010-09-09T18:24:00.000-07:00

I have a real soft spot for playgroups. I am a marshmallow for military wives who have young children. Last July on of members posted a link on facebook that the air force base MOPS needed coordinators. I just could not say no! Despite my insanely active playgroup, I have decided to dedicate my Thursdays to Fairchild AFB MOPS.

My husband is a military man- This summer he will reach his twenty years of service and hopefully retire. I am proud to say I know the ins and outs of the base procedures, and how Tricare (health insurance) works, and whatnot. I know what TDY stands for and what a BOP is, etc. etc. etc. But the thing I treasure the most about the military is the strong men and women and children, and what give to us.

If I have the opportunity to support them I will. It's just one more piece of broccoli, right?

Warning! Your kids will grow up!

2010-09-07T06:25:00.000-07:00

My personal pet peeve of playgroup leaders is designing a playgroup that they will grow out of in a few years. Some may natural grow into changes, but if the group continues to recruit members overtime, eventually your children will outgrow your own playgroup!

I absolutely HATE to see a group labeled "for mothers of babies under a year" or "for the age of two". News Flash; One year goes by quickly as a mother. I mean, come on; it's ridiculous to work hard building a group you will be forced to abandon the following year.

My playgroups are all inclusive ages, provided the mother has one child under five years old. My daughter started kindergarten this year, but I still have two more, and it will be another five years until all of my children graduate from the group.

The other day I sat down to do planning for the fall calendar and I began to roughly layout our field trips. Working the trips around my kindergartner's schedule is a little difficult. I became very sad when I realized that many of the things we have planned for the playgroup she won't be able to attend.

Then I slapped my hand on my head!

Gah! I've done the same thing I complain about in other organizers! My child is outgrowing the playgroup! Not that it is a bad thing. LOL. In any case, I am seriously considering the age limits to be "born in 2005 or under" or "between 2005-2010 and their respective siblings".--that way we never grow out of it. Lame. I know.

So I wanted to give a shout out to all you playgroup leaders who have age limits on your playgroups. Reality check; When your child or you outgrow the playgroup: Are you going to let it go?

Dividing the Group

2010-09-06T08:04:00.000-07:00

If your group is significantly large, you may consider seperating the groups by age, location, or other classifications that seem logical and unbiased. Seperating does mean the group cannot ever meet as a whole, but will give a chance for moms and kids to get to know some regular faces.

Seperating by age is a good choice for moms looking to meet a specific child's age group. You can divide the groups into non-mobile, wobblers, toddlers, and preschoolers. Many groups that divide groups up name their groups by categories of something else, uniting them with a common theme. For example, a group may classify this way:

Rainbow Playgroup

Red group: All ages
Organe group: non mobile babies
Yellow group: crawlers
Green group: Wobblers
Blue Group: Toddlers
Purple Group: Preschool

You can use all sorts of categories like fruit or vegetables, animals, art, etc. Details can even be divided further if the group is very large. You can have a birdie playgroup and divide groups by naming different categories of birds. Then further divide by age (Hatchlings, younglings, waddlers, flyers, etc).

Dividing by location is a bit tricky, but the easiest way is to seperate by zip code (if you are in the U.S.).

Make sure when you divide into groups that each group has a leader; someone to take care of things if you do not fall into the category. If your group starts to decrease in size you can also eliminate groups as well. If there is was thing that is true all groups change with time. When organizers adapt to those changes the group will thrive. Keep up on toes, and you'll never miss a beat! Happy Organizing!

Finding Members for your group Online

2010-09-03T05:00:00.000-07:00

The biggest problem for many groups, especially groups that are small or just starting out, is enrolling members. How does one find others like his or herself? Without a clue about Marketing or Advertising, I gave it my all, and I can say from experience that for any social group word of mouth produces the best results (We'll cover that later!).

But for argument's sake, let's assume that you have no one to spread the word. So what do you do?

First you have to make your group visible. Get your group's website an individual address. Godaddy is the provider I use; it's not expensive, and not too hard to figure out how to link it. Submit your website to search engines like Google, and Yahoo.

Now the real work begins. Start linking your web address to other high visibility websites. Find blogs that on remotely relating to your group, and see if they accept guest bloggers. Write articles for some article websites like ezarticles and put the link to your group in the signature. This will strengthen your visibility on search engines.
Let's realize that the Internet is our friend. Although it can be a risky place to put information, organizers can control the amount of information released. It can be as simple as an advertisement of a playgroup, simply stating, please write to this email if interested. Then these responses can be collected and emailed more information or a phone number to call.

If advertising online, there are many approaches to doing so.

Social Media.

It's the new wave of advertising word of mouth. Social Media has even been accused of out-doing google ads, the top online provider in advertisement. Something as simple as starting a facebook fanpage or twitter account can roll out some new members. Just be sure to keep your followers updated on all the cool stuff your group does!

Online Classifieds

More places to advertise items for free are popping up. Craigslist has a place designated for groups specifically, but you may find free classifieds on your local newspapers/station's websites.

Online Groups

Online groups are becoming a major part of online social activity. Many places like google or yahoo allow anyone with an account to start one. Facebook and Meetup.com also do any type of social group you might be looking to start.

For playgroups specifically check out these sites:

cafemom.com
iplaygroups.com
raisingthem.com
socialtoddler.com
playgroupsusa.com

A word about invite etiquette

I am a big supporter of 'the more the merrier' and 'everyone's invited' attitude. However, inviting members of other groups to join yours may be offensive to other group organizers. Remember that they have worked to get the amount of members they have, and there is a possibility that they will see an innocent invite as an indication that his or her group is not 'good enough'.

If you intend to invite members from another group, ask the organizer his or her feelings first. Make sure that when you invite members that you keep your main intentions of joining that group to participate, and not simply solicit your own group.

Closer Look; Cafe Mom

2010-09-02T05:27:00.000-07:00

Cafe Mom is a website bringing moms together. It's main purpose is not to support groups; however this is the part I would like to write about. Cafe mom allows it's members to create groups for free. They can be local, or virtual. The nice thing is they can be made private so there is no risk there.

Setting up a group event is easy. One thing I like is the category it will list for your event. You can set it to 'virtual' or 'in person' or 'playdate', etc. It allows you to set the date, and start and end time and address. Once posted, an RSVP and comment tracker is on the event page. I personally do not like the fact that members can RSVP maybe.

The site will also have forums, chat, photos albums, and a member list. Administration tools allow the organizer to select privacy, invite people via friend's email, and members of cafe mom that you have already befriended.

The one thing that I LOVE about cafe mom is the support group they have for administers. You have to join the group, but they have topics about getting your group to grow, and how to handle certain situations. Support is the number one thing that keeps the organizer going. It is such a valuable thing to have.

The main reason why I don't organize religiously on cafemom is because it is a free website. I know, sounds like I'm backward. Since the website is free the website's income in generated from advertisements. It really clogs up the screen page, and plenty of them are animated at that!

Another thing is cafemom's groups do not have high visibility on search engines. While cafemom does come up frequently in searches, there is still a difficultly for new members to find your group. Like I said before, cafemom is not just about groups. If one makes their way to the group section, I don't think they will spend enough time on the section to find the group.

OK. Let's wrap this up. Here is a list of pros and cons.

PROS

It's free
Easy event management
has online communication abilities

CONS

ads
low visibility
not specifically met for groups

All together, cafemom is a great place to run a playgroup if you have a few members to begin with. If you are starting from scratch you'll find that it will be difficult to grow. Either way, it is just one of the very few options out there!

Not a typical Storytime!

2010-09-01T06:01:00.000-07:00

I can not tell you, how much I hate storytimes! For the parent of a wildly active child (like myself), you add a free spririted child, one large empty room, and an inexperienced (or uneducated) storytime volunteer it becomes madness. They just can't keep your child interested the entire 20 mintues or half an hour. However depsite my personal feelings about storytime, they are a great staple to attend with playgroups. Barnes and Noble in particular.

At some locations, Barnes and Noble includes a costume character once a month (locations may vary). For me the costume character is a perk because I love pictures. The whole idea reminds me of Disneyland in a way.

Before you jump on your calendars to start planning your first playgroup trip, take these tips into considration.

Call ahead; you might be able to plan a specail one just for your group
Advise the staff that ages of your children's ages and tolerance. (a bunch of two year olds are not going to sit and listen to stories with three or more full sentences on each page)
Make sure your members are aware of the enviroment. This is a sit down activity, and some (who have wildly active children) may not realize how much work it will be for them

Remember to take pictures and send them in! I would love to hear about your storytimes!

Why moms groups are so important

2010-08-27T19:36:00.000-07:00

Nothing can make me happier than being a mom. I believe it is the most glamorous job in the world. OK. maybe not glamorous, but definitely happy. If anyone were to ask me what being a mother is like, I look back over the years and remember;

My babies laying in my arms asleep so peaceful. Caressing their soft skin and watching their breath...in and out. Laughing. My oldest on our first trip to Disneyland: She was mostly fascinated by the trees; because at the time we lived in Tucson were trees where scarce. She kept tilting her head back to look up at all the leaves.....

My two year old right now is jumping up and down holding her shoe, exclaiming "My boots! My Boots!" Who knew shoes could be so exciting?! I foresee quite a bit of girl-bonding shoe-shopping coming in about a decade.

When I think about being a mother, I only remember positive things. I know why; it is because I don't have to worry about where to send my complaints to. My mommy friends may not always have the answers my mom, the doctors, or those experts have. There is a different feeling when you know you are in the presence of someone going through the same exact thing you are at exactly the same time. There is no replacement for it.

You know you are not alone...as a result, I can vent out all my frustration and all I have left is the happy memories.

These are the things I will remember because I have all the support and advice I need in parenting. That is what my mommy groups have brought to me. And when someone asks me What it is like being a mother...I will tell them....you'll never forget it...and always cherish it. There is nothing better than being a mom.

Deals for your group!

2010-08-20T07:56:00.000-07:00

Here's an idea you don't want to pass by!! If you are all about getting deals for your group sign up for groupon notifications in your local area.Today I purchased 3 hour long dance lessons for my group for $22 each person. I purchased one for myself, and 3 gifts. This is how I work it out on our calendar.

First I called the venue, and told them that a small group of us bought the groupon deal and we where hoping to at least pair up. Between myself and the venue we determined when we could fit the group of us into their classes.

Now I post them on our site! I explain that the group purchased the groupons from the group funds, but we are asking for donations to re-coop funds.

Once we have members rsvpd, we take that number and officially reserve the spot (members have until a pre-determined date to rsvp). Typically I would have them make their donation before RSVPing to ensure that they are committed to coming.

If I have coupons left over, I repeat the process. This type of an event only needs to have two people to really make the group event fun; so I figure the only reason to not do it again is if you only have one groupon left over---which in that case can be used a prize for a drawing or something!

Happy Organizing!

Party in the House!

2010-08-12T11:41:00.000-07:00

Yesterday I received an email from house party notifying me of my chance to enter the fisher price play date house party!

My jaw dropped when I saw the hostess receives

5 new Fisher-Price toys:

Go Baby Go! Stride-to-Ride Dino

Laugh & Learn Learn & Move Music Station

Laugh & Learn Learning Kitchen

Lil' Zoomers Spinnin' Sounds Speedway

Fisher-Price Stack ‘n Surprise Blocks Musical Croc Block Wagon

10 Brillant Basics Rock-a-Stack® Toys

10 Fisher-Price Day and Night Diapers sample packs

Apply for this House Party and if you are chosen, please share your event stories with us!!!!!!!!!! Happy Playing!

Where to Meet

2010-08-02T19:48:00.001-07:00

Playdates are the core of many Mom's groups. Sometimes, depending on the moms in the group, playdates are held at churches, community rooms, or parks. It's a simple and effective way to bring moms and kids together. Playgroups often gather weekly at places mentioned above or in each other's homes. Here's some help on getting your playgroups up and running.

Finding your Venue

If your playgroup is based off a church or a religion, then you may already have the best place to run your playgroup. By talking to the staff at the church, you should get an idea of:

-how large the space is you are going to use.

-if you need to provide the toys and entertainment for the kids and mommies

-if food is allowed

-what dates and times you could possibly use the facility

-any other details regrading using the space

If your playgroup is mainly for any mom and kids, then selecting a proper venue may be difficult if you are looking for a re-occurring place to meet. Check out your libraries and local stores and community center to see if they have community room available for little or no cost. Some do and some don't.

Most mom's don't realize it at first...but they may already have an appropriate venue right in their own home! This makes it easy. There's no cost, and toys are already available (because most families have a variety of toys appropriate for the age groups their children belong to). Alot of mom's find it most comfortable in each others homes. Some playgroups alternate hosting the playgroup in their home.
Although most playgroups offline run their playdates at the same date and time, it may be difficult to implement this with an online group. In this case, it may be easier to let the host decide on the date and time, and specifics of their event.

As organizer, you also have the right to decide if you want to let the members of the group determine your events, or if you want the group to suit your needs, and then seek out members with the same needs. So if your group does depict a reoccurring playgroup in each other's homes for (i.e.) Weds at 9:30 am, then it should be clear on your web page, and members should be made aware of this, before joining the group, so they can decide if the group is right for them.

Just stay tuned!

2010-07-25T17:20:00.000-07:00

So-- no! I've haven't fallen off the blog grid. The past two months I've been working feverishly because reality hit me. I have three unrelenting commitments that may selfishly negotiate my time away from writing! Their names are.......well, you get the idea. If I intend to continue to see new additions every week my time management has to be precise! So my plan! I'm writing a ton of informative articles set to make their debut in September! Don't be afraid to take the silence as a nice brake from the screaming kids in your own household! Submit your ideas relating to playgroups that you would like to see featured! Til September!

A good reason why playgroups are benefical

2010-05-29T21:42:00.000-07:00

My eldest daughter is a very picky eater. Not too long ago, she would not eat any condiment at all. I could not even get her to try ketchup; something I thought is a childhood staple.

Last Fall we had a play date with a friend from the playgroup. For lunch, we made a picnic spread on a blanket on the living room floor. Chicken nuggets (a staple in our house) made it's way onto the blanket. My daughter's friend looked on over the food with disappointment.

"There is no ketchup." She pouted.

Of course! Just because my child does not eat ketchup does not mean that other children don't. So I happily brought out the container of the ketchup and made a smiley face with it on a plate.

"Where is my ketchup?!" demanded my own four year old. I could not believe my own ears. Not one to argue, I put some ketchup near her reach, and all the kids ate happily.

Now my daughter reminds me "Don't forget the ketchup."

As if I would.

But I think it's safe to point out, that if your child is a picky eater like my own, one way to encourage them to try new foods is to invite a friend over that already likes it. Having a playgroup is even better.

Try a picnic at a park, and each child is to bring one thing they like to eat (that is somewhat healthy) and one thing they do not want to try. You never know they might try it if other children are eating it, and sharing the new foods may introduce yourself to food you have never thought to give to you child in the first place.

Just 'food' for thought.

Easy Recipes For Kids: Trail Mix

2010-05-25T08:02:00.000-07:00

You might remember when you were a child, how special you felt when you were included in adult activities. One activity that is often considered adult is cooking. Even many kids books offer some adult interaction that requires an adult to put the food in the oven or on the stove top. Personally, I never liked help, so for my recipes that I do with my children, I try to make them with as little adult interaction as possible.

The first recipe that I did with the playgroup went really well. We made trail mix but because my daughter is allergic to peanuts, we choose to use almonds and cashews instead. Here are the possible ingredients you can use for your own!

any type of nut
raisins or craisins
m&ms, Reese's pieces
dried fruit
marshmallows
sunflower seeds
popcorn
gold fish or animal (or other small tough) crackers
cheerios or other cereal
pretzels
gummy candy

Put each individual ingredient into a bowl, and let the children take a small baggie. Let them choose what they would like to put in it with the rule that they need to have 3-5 types (this way they might pick something new!).

Very easy and no parent help to do!

M.A.M.A.s Take on the parade!

2010-05-18T19:35:00.000-07:00

This past Saturday, we went to our city's annual tortchlight parade. Last year I did not attempt to do this for a few reasons; I was pregnant, the parade runs until 11 pm, and the walk to the streets is long. This year, I decided to face my fears when my assistant organizer decided to post it for an event. I suppose it also helps that my husband was marching in the parade again this year (The first year we were in spokane he also marched in it.).

Thankfully another assistant's wonderful mother had the nerve to save spaces for us from early in the morning. With space saved there was no worrying over the kids getting bored too early. Just in case, I headed over to the dollar store beforehand to stock up on entertainment. Here is what I bought:

Glow sticks (to avoid the "Mommy I wants" on the mobile vendors)
Box of jumbo crayons
Activity coloring book
Stickers booklet
Snacks (okay; these were from walmart)

I also brought sunscreen, but thankfully we didn't need it.

I had unbelievable luck. The parade started at 7 :45 pm and my kid's bed time is 8:30 pm. Being the drive took 20 minutes, the parade does not end until 11pm, I knew the kids would miss bedtime. Lucky me, my middle child did not go to bed on time for nap, and slept from 5 pm to 6pm instead.

Boredom fighters worked like a charm. When the parade came, the kids had used everything, at least once. I was pleasantly surprised that my 2 yr old watched it. It made caring for my baby easier. Both the girls got dirty, but what can you expect?

So here is a local town idea you can use as an event for playgroups. You can check with parks and rec or city hall for any annual parades. Also check with your schools and universities. My high school has a homecoming parade every year. Most parades are free to watch, and don't have to be costly otherwise. I only spent $17 and actually didn't use all the glo sticks.

Take it to the Park!

2010-05-13T08:17:00.000-07:00

It's obvious that one place any mother and child can meet other families is the community parks. When it comes to mothers group meeting at parks frequently, it can get a little boring. Adding interest into a park play date is not as hard as it may seem, in fact, it's easy!

The first thing you'll have to think about it what your parks have to offer. Do they have grassy areas? Sand areas? Water areas? Sometimes the amenities won't accommodate what you are hoping for, so make sure you include obstacles in your plan. After all, you can't fly a kite in a wooded park, and the temptation of a community splash pad at the park might distract your toddler from a planned craft.

I have a personal park kit for those times when park play dates seem to drag on. Here's what is in it:

Parachute and accessories
Bubbles
Pop up Tents

Picnic blanket, snacks, bottled water

Hula hoops
bug kits
sand toys

balls

buckets

We'll go into details later in the blog, but if there is something you want more details specifically on, just let me know in a comment.

The important things you want to know about parks:

1. They are public, and anyone can use them. You cannot force anyone to leave unless they are breaking the law.

2. If you did not reserve a space with parks and rec, you may be forced to leave the area of the park if someone else did.

3. Know what the weather is. I am really bad about this. I cannot express to anyone how important this is because it will save the last minute changes.

4. Also, know that no one can make you move if they don't have a written permit to use the space or have a badge that says they have the authority. Just keep in mind, because parks are a popular place for moms groups to meet. Consider this though: Instead of separating, try asking if they'd like to join you. After all, it is all about getting together to talk and play. If you are lucky enough to schedule the same time and place then how about the more the merrier?!

May I introduce you to

2010-05-11T15:50:00.000-07:00

There are plenty of times I will refer to one playgroup or an other. I belong to several playgroups. Usually the one I write about is http://www.spokanemamas.org/. I have been running this playgroup for over two years. It's gone through quite a bit, but I have to say I'm proud of it.

Right now, we have over 60 moms and over 100 kids. Not everyone is active, but we have a core of members that come at least once a month, some even come weekly. The group does not have a membership fee, as I am not ready to take on that responsibility just yet. We typically meet four-ten times a week.

Out of eveything the group does, my personal favorites are the playgroup activities. I am not a professional, but I teach Isty Bitsy Yoga and baby sign language classes (with the help of my assistant organizer who has experience in sign language). We also have a parachute, and I hope to one day also offer other activities too.

The most popular event is our stroller walks. It is such a simple activity, but it really fills the needs of moms and children alike. Our walks usually take place at the mall. Since most of our children are around stroller age, it suit all age ranges in the group. Moms stroll around chit-chatting, without having to worry about where their children are or what they are doing. Afterward we let them play in the play area or playground (if we are at a park.).

I love the fact that we constantly go to places within the city that are child-friendly. We've been to the children's museum, chuck e cheese, etc. With summer on its way, we'll be making time for pools and splashpads.

There is such a variety of events that we do, it would be impossible to name them all. From time to time, I will talk about these events, share some pictures, and talk about how well they are recieved. I think the thing that makes our group our own is we all have need to join together. It may be for different reasons, but those different reasons fills other member's need in turn. It's amazing how so many moms can come together. So if you are ever wondering what my group is like---well, now you know.

A Typical Playgroup before the Internet

2010-05-09T09:03:00.000-07:00

I am dependent on the the Internet. I shop there, read there, socialize there, heck you could say that I live there. Quite frankly, the Internet saved my life from isolation through playgroups. Ironic, no? For those of you who are stay at home moms suffering from that same isolation but do not own a computer; all hope is not lost. Just because you don not have a computer does not mean you cannot part take in playgroups, and I am going to tell you how.

The first playgroups before technology where preschools and church groups. Preschools developed for children under the age five, and typically met for a few hours in the mornings on a weekday. Parents did not normally attend, as staff supervise. Church groups are really a core family, and it is only natural for parents to gather on a weekly or monthly basis to celebrate childhood, and parenthood alike.

Today, you can find playgroups at libraries, rec centers, churches, even some hospitals. There are tons of them online. It might take a bit of searching, but they are out there. As a matter of fact, some are national! I can't give you exact details of all of them, but here are the largest most popular ones that I know-

MOPS- Mothers of Preschoolers is a christian-based mothers group, usually meets once a month but can meet in other patterns if the steering team chooses to do so. Usually, child care is provided, the mothers share a breakfast, listen to a speaker and/or do a craft. MOPS is so popular and large that most divide into smaller discussion groups so it is easier to get to know your fellow members. MOPS does have a yearly fee, and you can find out more about them by visiting their website.

MOMS club- Moms offering Moms Support is another organization that is nation-wide. Activities vary group to group, and also have an annual fee. MOMS club is not affiliated with any religious backgrounds, however many members have strong religious beliefs.

Moms of Multiples- Moms of Multiples is pretty obvious. They're purpose is to support mothers who have twins, triplets, etc. Since I am not a mother of multiples myself (Although sometimes I feel like my oldest is the same age are her younger siblings depending on the day!), I cannot tell you much about this organization, but it's definitely popular with parents, because it was the first group I had ever heard of.

All of the these group started with little Internet involvement. Look what they have accomplished! So what if there are no chapters in your area? Where else do you look?

Libraries- most libraries have story times, which attract mothers and mall children. Same with bookstore. Start attending these and just ask the moms there if they would like to come to a playgroup. Some libraries even have playgroups already.

Hospitals- If you are a breastfeeding mom, there are usually breastfeeding support groups. voila.-- an other playgroup in the making.

Put out a want ad.. in community newsletters, the newspaper, where ever!

Check with local churches. Some may not even be affiliated with the church.

I have to say, from my experience the easiest way is the Internet, but I realize that for some, it is just not a possibility. There are options, you just have to get creative.

The Super Mom....and her crazy ideas

2010-05-08T21:07:00.000-07:00

People refer to me as super mom. I find it quite funny, because to me super mom would have the dishes done every night ( Confession: Today's dishes are still in the sink and I have no plans to touch them tonight.) Most of those who have called me that are members of my playgroup. I run a mothers group in Spokane Valley, WA. As of today we have over 60 moms in the group, and have anywhere between 5-12 events per a week. (No, I do not attend them all. ) This alone is why people bestow the super title to me; but I would like to set the record straight. I'm just a mom, with a passion for playgroups.

Sometimes I think people think too much of what I do. Sometimes I feel that people think too little. Whatever your position is, I don't really care. I'm writing to share my passion with you. I've been running playgroups since May of 2006. Despite its pitfalls, I love it. I have even considered having more children just to keep doing so. (Do not worry; I think three is plenty. )

I know there are resources out there to help playgroups leaders, but finding a good constant source of ideas, support, and encouragement is hard, even online. This is my purpose for this blog. I have been told if you are lucky enough to find your passion, share it with the world. Here it is world; enjoy!